30 Day Challenge- Day #30

30. List 5 things you would hope to be remembered for?

Oh my gosh, I am so excited this is my last challenge day. This has been way more difficult than I thought it was going to be.

I hope that I will have a family that will remember me. I hope to have kids, grand kids, my husband- I don't want him to die first! I think the biggest thing you can leave behind is happy, healthy children. Another generation.

I want to know that I helped people. I have never been a huge career person but I still feel that being a child therapist is a passion. Hopefully, there will be children out there who learned how to change because of what I taught them.

I wish I had three more. Really, I don't want to be "known" for much. All I care about is knowing that I have made my family happy and maybe, as a bonus, I've helped someone.

Happy Thursday,

30 Day Challenge- Day #29

29. What do you think people misunderstand most about you?

I suppose that people think I am a bitch. Ha ha- great first line. I am not the most open person. Most people who know me now tell me that I gave off a, "leave me alone" attitude before they started talking to me.

I tend to have a lot of anxiety around new people and I come off kinda mean. Don't get me wrong, some people do irritate the crap outta me. I don't have tons of friends because I tend to only like a certain kind of person. For instance, if you are a girly girl that is super bubbly- I don't really know how to interact with you. It confuses my pessimistic, sarcastic brain.

I think once you get to know me you realize I am pretty laid back and easy to get along with. But- first impressions can be difficult to change. Although, with clients and in an interview setting I am a very good faker. I need to learn to keep that therapy persona on more regularly. That or just stop being scared of new people.

Happy Wednesday,

30 Day Challenge- Day #28

28. What is your love language?

Oh, I love this book! In undergraduate I minored in Sociology and learned about this book. My love language is quality time. I even got this book as a wedding gift from family members. I think I still somehow have multiple copies.

The website defines quality time as: For those whose love language is spoken with Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Seriously, if you haven't read this book it really is interesting to find out how your partner communicates. Not to mention- how you communicate without even realizing it.

Happy Tuesday,

30 Day Challenge- Day #27

27. What is your favorite part of your body and why?

Wow- talk about making a girl feel snobby. Plus, what girl really has a favorite part? I am going to go with- anything that doesn't jiggle when I walk. So- I know I have good hair and I like the color of my eyes. What a sad little answer.

I firmly state I have green eyes. They are just dark green so I have to be in sun light for a person to really tell. In Kindergarten I had to draw a picture of myself and I drew the person with green eyes. My teacher attempted to inform me that I had brown eyes. Then I proceeded to argue with her until she left me- and my picture- alone. Ahh, nice to know I was stubborn even at 5 years old.

Not a great picture- but green eyes people! I have crazy face because I am eating lobster. Lobster produces giddy-ness in me. I can't control it.

Happy Monday,

30 Day Challenge- Day #26

26. What popular notion do you think the world has most wrong?

I am not sure if this is a notion- but I think the worst part of society is how everyone is me, me, me nowadays. Not to say that I don't ever act that way. I think everyone is that way to a certain extent. But, it seems like everyone just has an isolated little life where they don't really care about others.

Last week, one of my clients- he is ten years old- just stared at me and asked me why I care about his problems. He truly did not understand why I would try to help him. He even said that his teacher told him to only worry about himself. Really? Who teaches that?

With everything being so technical now- facebook, email, texting- it seems like we have lost human contact. Even at grocery stores- I know I run to the self check out instead of talking to the cashier. When I was little I played outside or used my imagination. I didn't play video games locked in the house all summer. What happened to personal connection?

But hey- I always admitted I'm a flaming liberal.
Happy Sunday,

30 Day Challenge- Day #25

25. If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?

Does anyone else think this is just a dumb question. I mean, really, who cares. Just sayin...

Anyway, I know I should say some famous person- but I don't know them so what's the point. I really would rather see my grandmother again. She is the only grandparent I have lost. Geez, I still have great-grandparents! I would just love to catch up and tell her about my life since she passed away when I was in high school. And what would I eat- a vat of her homemade mac and cheese. Not to mention her chocolate chip pound cake. I still eat these things all the time but they never taste as good as when she made them!

Happy Saturday,

30 Day Challenge- Day #24

24. Describe your family dynamic of your childhood vs. your family dynamic now.

Well, hmm- let's start off with the fact that my parents live 18 hours away from me. Obviously, growing up I lived with them. At least my brother hasn't left me yet. Sorry, I have to rub it in at any opportunity.

I would say that the biggest change is that our relationship is not as parent to child but parent to adult child. That sounds like a subtle change but it should be a large difference. In certain ways I am much closer to them-even with the distance. I distinctly remember my dad sitting me down when I was in college and telling me that, "our relationship will change because I'm not a little kid anymore". I appreciate that my parents have let me grow up. I watch so many people hang on to those apron strings just begging for their kids to never leave childhood. I think that since my parents let me go- I came back.

I still depend on my parents for advice and guidance quite a bit. When you are a kid you look to your parents for everything but as an adult I realized that they gave me the tools to do it myself. Living miles apart has taught us and made us work for our relationship. I have to actually make an effort to see my brother and my parents but it makes you appreciate that bond more. The biggest difference I see is that I don't need my parents anymore- but, instead, I choose to need them.

Happy Friday,